As I got older, grown people (adults) would tell me, “You need to eat more” or “You need to gain weight” or my favorite, “You need to eat a hamburger” (like a hamburger would magically make me gain 10 pounds). It is so frustrating. I used to just ignore it but one day, I just snapped. I told my wife, the next person that says I need to eat or something mean, I am going to go off on them (and when I say something like that, she knows I am serious). I know it’s not the right thing to do, but come on, most of the people that would tell get on me about my weight are overweight themselves. What gives them the right to tell me that? You know if I told them, “you need to lose weight,” they would be all sad and butthurt and probably call me an asshole, but for them to say something to me and laugh it off, is fine.
We had a friend that wanted us to meet him in Springfield, MO for the weekend, and we could go to dinner and hit up some bars. He knew two ladies there so we all met up and bar hopped and bar hopped till we got hungry. The ladies decided to eat at this place that looked like it was about to fall down, it smelled horrible, the walls and rug were stained with god knows what and the people that worked there barely had teeth. Do you really think I would eat there????? A BIG FAT NO!!! (For the record, the place was so gross, my wife wouldn’t even eat there.)
So, everyone ordered and when the waitress got to me, I politely told her that I am not ordering and one of the ladies we were with says, “are you bulimic or something?” I could feel my body getting hot, my ears felt like they were going to burn off and I just started yelling at her.
Get ready for “EXPLICIT LANGUAGE”
“No, I am NOT fucking bulimic or anorexic, I am not going to eat this greasy fucking food. And let me ask you, are you pregnant? You have a pudge, and your friend is overweight, do you want to talk about that? Don’t you think you and your friend should not be eating this food and should be losing fucking weight?”
Yes, I know another moment in my life that makes me cringe, but you know what, I am tired of people telling me that I need to gain weight or eat. Even if I had an eating disorder, why would it be a good idea to bust it out in front of everyone???? I just do not get people sometimes. You never know what is going on behind closed doors; people need to be more respectful. No one wants to be skinny-shamed like fat people do not want to be fat-shamed. For the record: It’s the same thing.
I was just born skinny, my mom was skinny her whole life and that is how I am. I can eat all the time and not gain weight. Have I gained weight since school? Sure did, and I love it. I want to gain weight. I want to be healthy, but just because I am skinny does not mean I am not healthy or taking care of myself. I have been on a long grueling road dealing with my anxiety, but I can say, I am eating and I am healthy. I just don’t want to eat greasy food because it will make me anxious or make me feel crappy. Not going to lie and say my life is perfect cause it is not, I still get panic attacks and scared of some foods, but I am getting better.
There are so many memes I see on Facebook saying, “curves are better,” “men loves curves,” “no one wants to cuddle with bones.” So ridiculous. Everyone has a different body type and no matter what it is, we all need to stop shaming each other. There is not a perfect weight or perfect body, everyone needs to love their body! Skinny, fat, tall, wide, short, none of these make anyone better than the next person.
I am going to stop here and let you read this article that is very relevant to my blog!